HOW TO LOVE YOU MORE
SUSAN’S interpretative NOTES: John Gray on “MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS”:
Men and women are different. Men produce Testosterone to “fix problems” Women produce Oxytocin to “solve Problems= science. Women came to Dr. Gray because their friend told them he “cared” when all he said he did was stop talking with women so much and start listening to them. He said he discovered that women simply want to be listened to….and he said that the science-- biology-- validated his theories. Women talk their way through issues and problems and men jump on the problem to fix them-- oxytocin and testosterone. Sometimes women simply want an ear-- listening…..not fixing.
Bi-Polar-- you fell in love--lovey dovey. You fall out of that initial love syndrome-- not so lovey dovey.
What happened?
Let’s look at energy issues!
John Gray talks about nutrition as a component of the reason things change. He’s right-- bad diet plays a part of what happens. That is readily fixable-- change your diet habits, change your love life and relationships. AND couples have to be willing to change-- awareness of the food issues that cause bad behavior. Bad gut, bad head, bad thinking, bad words, oooops spoken words create hurt and pain.
Energy work is different-- this is spirit. Here is what I have discovered:
The issue in most relationships that can cause communication issues is not just bad food habits or testosterone and oxytocin conflict, but spiritual invasion.
Who are you? Or more succinctly, who are you being?
When we allow the entity-- the energy-- of another to enter our sacred space--into the bubble of our aura and or the bubble of the intersection of two auras-- the special communication vector that says -- “This is why and what I love about you”-- then conflict arises.
Solving relationship love issues can be as simple as asking the question-- Who is here that does not want us to be together in happiness and love and joy and forgiveness and pleasure?
Mom? Dad? Grandma, grandpa, uncle? Sister? Brother. Past lover? Children?
Who is in competition with your relationship space? Who is jealous? Sometimes the program goes all the way back to being a toddler. Did you try to run away from home? Did you go against the family program to be something they wanted you to be? Doctor? Lawyer, Engineer, family business partner/owner? How did you not follow the family protocols for how/who you should become? Who should you marry?
It is not only a picture or a past time experience….it is an entity-- a being and a spirit that enters the chakras, the aura, the energy systems of the etheric body that interferes with your current relationship love space.
Science and psychology does not honor, respect or even recognize etheric energy, the ability of the spirit to head-hop, to program you from the past and continue to literally live inside you as a program you do not recognize as “theirs.” You just follow along and get into relationship hell.
How do you love YOU more in a compromised relationship-- where you are on the brink of separating and leaving-- where you are hurt over and over and feel the pain of not being loved by another.
The next step is to love YOU more…Validation and even love validation comes from within. WE have to learn to love ourselves unconditionally-forgive ourselves and allow the Supreme Being-- the God of our hearts to stay with us-- enter the whole beingness in a spirit of faith and fullness--recognize that the one true love is the Supreme Being-- christ force energy, You are not ever given a task you can not endure, overcome or extract yourself from. You are always given a way out. A lifeboat as it were. The question is: Did you see the lifeboat? Did you see the spiritual gift that gave you the way out of a difficult challenging situation--or were you blind and deaf? Resolution, or the solution is always there when you ask for it.
A client recently asked what is the key to her husband being more kind, polite, loving and respectful of her and appreciative of her care-giving? When connected to spirit together the answer was in the air around her…..a woman…another woman who nurtured her husband, even dressed him until he went away to college, fawned over him. But she passed on. Dead and gone. But not gone. This spirit in the ether stayed with him pushing for a woman to be in his life to do exactly what she did-- dress him as if he were needing that kind of care. This entity stayed in his aura, affecting his marriages for decades. She pushed away other women until a woman appeared as strong or stronger than she was when she was in her live body and the new wife negated her wishes for her to be the woman she wanted him to marry.
The day she was removed from his aura and rejected from the relationship space they created for synchronicity and cooperation,,,, is the day he brought her roses. Unbeknownst to him, his wife removed the other woman who fawned over him and dressed him and enabled him. The invading spirit of she-who-passed-on was gone and he could now become himself. And they could have a renewed relationship. Will this renewal last? NOT unless he chooses to permanently disconnect from the entity who passed on, who for decades nudged and lured the women in his life to fawn over him like a baby. This lack of a disconnect is a recipe for disaster in his current relationship.